There are but two persons who will never fail you. God and yourself. Whatever may come you will always stay true to your nature. Be it when you do bad or good deeds, you can only act in the way your nature dictates. The goal is to develop your self-control, discipline and virtue to the point where you can really on yourself that you will always act in the way which is most beneficial to yourself.
masculine frame control
Know Your Limitations, Don’t Be Icarus
The modern world tells us such lies when we are children, that we can ‘become anything we want to be’ and that ‘it’s more important to participate than to win’. This sort of education leads men to developing a view of the world where we are entitled to anything just for showing up for it, we get the victory for just showing up for the battle, we get the girl for just asking her out. This type of thinking fails to realize that an integral part of a man’s success is his failure. Failure is the way through which success is obtained, you try, you fail, you learn from it, your try again, repeat a few times until you succeed. Yet, the narrative today is either that of trying something for the first time, failing and then never trying again, or trying something for the first time, succeeding, developing hubris and reaching further than your abilities allow it, and then failing. There are countless example of men getting started with weight training, going to the gym for the first time, failing to lift a certain weight and giving up, or lifting a weight they thought they were too weak to lift, and so they keep ego-lifting until they get hurt.
Making Them Chase You | Tips on Confident Social Interaction
In order to make the person you’re interacting with in a social situation, be it a person at work or a girl you’re flirting with chase you, you need to start moving away, it sounds logical, doesn’t it? Having another person come into your frame means you guiding them into your frame, but the key difference is that you don’t want to guide them by pushing them into it, you want to guide them by moving away step by step, making them come after you step by step, until you’ve got them into the frame of thinking in which you want them to be, and then you propose the result that you want to achieve from that interaction. This, paradoxically means that you need to stop caring about the result that you want to achieve, because in any moment of this ‘dance’ so to say of you giving a little then moving away, they might choose not to chase you, which might get you panicked and get you to fuck up your game.
Grow a Spine | Standing for Your Values and Defending Your Opinions [MASCULINE MINDSET]
is a man, but a set of principles incarnate. Men are beings of virtue, the more we defend our own values and stick to our own perspective of the world, the better that perspective becomes. Defending your own values when they come under attack from your enemies is the primary reason why men evolved to be as strong and capable as we are. Defending the things we stand from, the things that guide us through our lives and which promise us the eternal light of virtue and truth, these things are different for every man, but to all men they must be holy, wholeheartedly defended with mental vigor and power. In the old times, defending your values meant getting into physical confrontations with those men who challenge them. In today's world things are different, yet still all the same. You may not be expected to fight for your values (though you might well be in times of war and crisis), but you are expected to defend your position when your values come under attack, both verbally and through your actions.
It’s Fucking Simple | A Mindset for Overcoming Doubt
Through the years I found myself guilty of this as well, when I need to study for something, or do an extra thing at work, or learn a new skill, whatever situation the “It’s too complicated for me” was always there. Even in emotional situations, before I became aware of how do inter human relations really work, I was too lazy to accept the truth, when I got bullied, or when a girl rejected me or I had a fight with my friends. I’d always fall back into the “It’s too complicated for me to sort it out” argument. This kind of behavior made me weak and undeserving of the title of a man and the position in which I was born in as a sentient being. As I started to improve my life a few years ago, going to the gym, studying, making progress in my social life I found a simple mindset, a short motto or a mantra that helped me overcome that comfortably helpless excuse. It was “It’s fucking simple, just start.” These are one of the most powerful words I have spoken to myself ever, they motivated me to go further in life than almost anything else.
I Myself Am Enough | The Mindset for Developing a Masculine Frame
The masculine frame is essentially the mindset a man needs to have in order to cultivate his inner spirit and self confidence. The frame you hold as a men determines to a great degree how you will live your life. You as a man project your frame onto every situation you happen to find yourself in, and through it you influence the people you communicate with. Having a weak frame leads too self doubt, poor communications skills, poor love-life, and being generally perceived as a weak and incompetent man. I wrote more about the importance of masculine frame and how to develop one in an article which you can read at this link. Today I wish to share with you another important piece of the masculine lifestyle puzzle, which represents another way towards developing and strengthening your masculine frame.
The Wolf with a Keyboard 