There are but two persons who will never fail you. God and yourself. Whatever may come you will always stay true to your nature. Be it when you do bad or good deeds, you can only act in the way your nature dictates. The goal is to develop your self-control, discipline and virtue to the point where you can really on yourself that you will always act in the way which is most beneficial to yourself.
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Digital Detox for Men – Endorsing Digital Detox December
The black mirror which we are faced with every single day of our lives is eating at our souls. Of course, I’m talking about the black LCD screens which seem to linger in every part of our modern world, in every corner, on every table, even in our own pockets. These little devices are a true testament for human ingenuity and intellectual ability. We as a race have created a machine that can ‘think’ and solves complex problems in a similar algorithmic manner in which the logical part of the human mind solves them. In our evolution as humans we have surpassed every other known species in both our intelligence and predatory abilities.
Trial, Failure and Success | Stoic Thoughts on Persistence
A condition of success is always trial and error. Before any big win we have in life we must first attempt to win before capturing it. We may fail multiple times, get demotivated, dragged through the mmud, humiliated and beaten in our spirits, yet if we keep on pushing forward, the win we are fighting for draws ever nearer and the more difficult the trail towards it was, the sweeter it’s taste becomes when we finally achieve it.
Know Your Limitations, Don’t Be Icarus
The modern world tells us such lies when we are children, that we can ‘become anything we want to be’ and that ‘it’s more important to participate than to win’. This sort of education leads men to developing a view of the world where we are entitled to anything just for showing up for it, we get the victory for just showing up for the battle, we get the girl for just asking her out. This type of thinking fails to realize that an integral part of a man’s success is his failure. Failure is the way through which success is obtained, you try, you fail, you learn from it, your try again, repeat a few times until you succeed. Yet, the narrative today is either that of trying something for the first time, failing and then never trying again, or trying something for the first time, succeeding, developing hubris and reaching further than your abilities allow it, and then failing. There are countless example of men getting started with weight training, going to the gym for the first time, failing to lift a certain weight and giving up, or lifting a weight they thought they were too weak to lift, and so they keep ego-lifting until they get hurt.
Making Them Chase You | Tips on Confident Social Interaction
In order to make the person you’re interacting with in a social situation, be it a person at work or a girl you’re flirting with chase you, you need to start moving away, it sounds logical, doesn’t it? Having another person come into your frame means you guiding them into your frame, but the key difference is that you don’t want to guide them by pushing them into it, you want to guide them by moving away step by step, making them come after you step by step, until you’ve got them into the frame of thinking in which you want them to be, and then you propose the result that you want to achieve from that interaction. This, paradoxically means that you need to stop caring about the result that you want to achieve, because in any moment of this ‘dance’ so to say of you giving a little then moving away, they might choose not to chase you, which might get you panicked and get you to fuck up your game.
Stoic Principles to Deal with Criticism
Today we are living in a world where we see constantly how people judge and criticize others all the time, no one is spared when it comes to criticism. Everybody sees the world and other people through their own lenses and while this is totally natural and human, this might be the reason why criticism is born in the first place. The reason for that is that we rarely see more than what our mind allows us. In this article, we will find stoic practices to deal with criticism in our daily lives, Besides this, we will get to know wonderful ways adopted by stoics to respond to unfair criticism with peace, patience, tolerance and dignity.
A stoic person knows that they will be the recipient of criticism by others therefore they need to be strong and patient and they don’t whine and bitch about it. Thus, they do not get attracted and distracted by such threats of criticism and keep themselves ready for it. Similarly, they usually do not take those situations too personally. As Epictetus stated: Feel grateful when someone unfairly criticizes you because they will not be pointing at your real flaws. Another point extremely worth mentioning as well is that criticism is a signal of progress (or at least change). You`ll have this experience firsthand once you decide to step up and pursue a dream. There always will be people laughing at you, doubting you won`t be able to accomplish whatever you have set you mind on. So, if you decided to do anything above average be ready for criticism, if it didn`t hit you already, IT IS COMING SOON.
Keeping The Fire Inside You Alive | How to Overcome Demoralization and Nihilism [Stoic’s Guide]
The truth is, the meaning is this world is verily non-existent, until we young men forge it in our minds, until we take our goals and ambitions to be the morally vertical thing to strive for, until we make those goals holy to us, and until we reject the false gods of equality, wealth attainment through the unhealthy, endless rat--race, and hedonism, instead striving for much greater goals such as self-actualization, forming of families and tribes, devotion to spirituality, and so on. Life is not meant to be easy, it’s meant to be hard enough for each of us men to be able to conquer a small part of it, a part of it that suits him, that he cares about, that he can conquer well, and by doing so, help us as a collective to conquer the rest of life and to force it not to become easy, but to become meaningful.
It’s Fucking Simple | A Mindset for Overcoming Doubt
Through the years I found myself guilty of this as well, when I need to study for something, or do an extra thing at work, or learn a new skill, whatever situation the “It’s too complicated for me” was always there. Even in emotional situations, before I became aware of how do inter human relations really work, I was too lazy to accept the truth, when I got bullied, or when a girl rejected me or I had a fight with my friends. I’d always fall back into the “It’s too complicated for me to sort it out” argument. This kind of behavior made me weak and undeserving of the title of a man and the position in which I was born in as a sentient being. As I started to improve my life a few years ago, going to the gym, studying, making progress in my social life I found a simple mindset, a short motto or a mantra that helped me overcome that comfortably helpless excuse. It was “It’s fucking simple, just start.” These are one of the most powerful words I have spoken to myself ever, they motivated me to go further in life than almost anything else.
I Myself Am Enough | The Mindset for Developing a Masculine Frame
The masculine frame is essentially the mindset a man needs to have in order to cultivate his inner spirit and self confidence. The frame you hold as a men determines to a great degree how you will live your life. You as a man project your frame onto every situation you happen to find yourself in, and through it you influence the people you communicate with. Having a weak frame leads too self doubt, poor communications skills, poor love-life, and being generally perceived as a weak and incompetent man. I wrote more about the importance of masculine frame and how to develop one in an article which you can read at this link. Today I wish to share with you another important piece of the masculine lifestyle puzzle, which represents another way towards developing and strengthening your masculine frame.
A Zen Hobby for a Modern Man | My One Year Experience of Pipe Smoking
A year ago I've started my journey into the hobby of pipe smoking. Influenced by a few people from within that community that described pipe smoking as a zen type of relaxing hobby, a low-effort, end of the day relaxation after a busy working day that any man can enjoy. On my year long journey my perspective on pipe smoking has somewhat changed, I still do it, but in a different way than I used to. My first text about smoking pipes was written last March, about Benefits of Pipe Smoking and you can read it here, let's say that that was me being excited about my new hobby, and this is me talking about how to do that hobby well, and how to truly engage in it.
The Wolf with a Keyboard 