There are but two persons who will never fail you. God and yourself. Whatever may come you will always stay true to your nature. Be it when you do bad or good deeds, you can only act in the way your nature dictates. The goal is to develop your self-control, discipline and virtue to the point where you can really on yourself that you will always act in the way which is most beneficial to yourself.
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Digital Detox for Men – Endorsing Digital Detox December
The black mirror which we are faced with every single day of our lives is eating at our souls. Of course, I’m talking about the black LCD screens which seem to linger in every part of our modern world, in every corner, on every table, even in our own pockets. These little devices are a true testament for human ingenuity and intellectual ability. We as a race have created a machine that can ‘think’ and solves complex problems in a similar algorithmic manner in which the logical part of the human mind solves them. In our evolution as humans we have surpassed every other known species in both our intelligence and predatory abilities.
Trial, Failure and Success | Stoic Thoughts on Persistence
A condition of success is always trial and error. Before any big win we have in life we must first attempt to win before capturing it. We may fail multiple times, get demotivated, dragged through the mmud, humiliated and beaten in our spirits, yet if we keep on pushing forward, the win we are fighting for draws ever nearer and the more difficult the trail towards it was, the sweeter it’s taste becomes when we finally achieve it.
Know Your Limitations, Don’t Be Icarus
The modern world tells us such lies when we are children, that we can ‘become anything we want to be’ and that ‘it’s more important to participate than to win’. This sort of education leads men to developing a view of the world where we are entitled to anything just for showing up for it, we get the victory for just showing up for the battle, we get the girl for just asking her out. This type of thinking fails to realize that an integral part of a man’s success is his failure. Failure is the way through which success is obtained, you try, you fail, you learn from it, your try again, repeat a few times until you succeed. Yet, the narrative today is either that of trying something for the first time, failing and then never trying again, or trying something for the first time, succeeding, developing hubris and reaching further than your abilities allow it, and then failing. There are countless example of men getting started with weight training, going to the gym for the first time, failing to lift a certain weight and giving up, or lifting a weight they thought they were too weak to lift, and so they keep ego-lifting until they get hurt.
Making Them Chase You | Tips on Confident Social Interaction
In order to make the person you’re interacting with in a social situation, be it a person at work or a girl you’re flirting with chase you, you need to start moving away, it sounds logical, doesn’t it? Having another person come into your frame means you guiding them into your frame, but the key difference is that you don’t want to guide them by pushing them into it, you want to guide them by moving away step by step, making them come after you step by step, until you’ve got them into the frame of thinking in which you want them to be, and then you propose the result that you want to achieve from that interaction. This, paradoxically means that you need to stop caring about the result that you want to achieve, because in any moment of this ‘dance’ so to say of you giving a little then moving away, they might choose not to chase you, which might get you panicked and get you to fuck up your game.
Discipline | The Source of Virtue and Freedom
There are essentially, three types of discipline a man must develop in order to achieve freedom. Discipline is the first, the cardinal virtue, it is the virtue from which all other virtues bloom, and the achievement of the state of iron discipline is the success from which stem all other successes.The lack of discipline is the sickness from which idle minds conjure up sin and vanity. It is essential for a man to be disciplined in his life, but attaining such discipline in a world in which no outside motivation for it exists is a difficult and daunting task.
Know Who You Can Trust | Stoic’s Guide to Trust and Manipulation [STOIC MINDSET]
Having someone who you can trust is a natural and needed part of a human life. Trust evolved as one of the social attributes which helped us to form our communities and tribes, trusting someone is a deep emotional need, it’s very hard, if not impossible to make that need go away. The Stoic practice is generally a good way to control one’s emotions, yet even it fails when it comes to the simple need of a man to have at least one person who they can trust sufficiently enough to show them the deepest, personal and hardest to admit aspects of oneself. The need for trust is simple, and can be put into terms of simple exchange: “I let you in on my private perspective of the world, and give you a role in it, you fulfill your role in my world, and keep other people away from my personal world.” Of course, the term “Personal world“ not only refers to one’s mind and thoughts, but also to secrets, to expectations and goals which he rarely shares, and most of all to one’s view of the objective reality around him, trusting someone means having someone with whom you can share your personal lens through which you see the wider world, without him telling anyone what he saw.
Keeping The Fire Inside You Alive | How to Overcome Demoralization and Nihilism [Stoic’s Guide]
The truth is, the meaning is this world is verily non-existent, until we young men forge it in our minds, until we take our goals and ambitions to be the morally vertical thing to strive for, until we make those goals holy to us, and until we reject the false gods of equality, wealth attainment through the unhealthy, endless rat--race, and hedonism, instead striving for much greater goals such as self-actualization, forming of families and tribes, devotion to spirituality, and so on. Life is not meant to be easy, it’s meant to be hard enough for each of us men to be able to conquer a small part of it, a part of it that suits him, that he cares about, that he can conquer well, and by doing so, help us as a collective to conquer the rest of life and to force it not to become easy, but to become meaningful.
It’s Fucking Simple | A Mindset for Overcoming Doubt
Through the years I found myself guilty of this as well, when I need to study for something, or do an extra thing at work, or learn a new skill, whatever situation the “It’s too complicated for me” was always there. Even in emotional situations, before I became aware of how do inter human relations really work, I was too lazy to accept the truth, when I got bullied, or when a girl rejected me or I had a fight with my friends. I’d always fall back into the “It’s too complicated for me to sort it out” argument. This kind of behavior made me weak and undeserving of the title of a man and the position in which I was born in as a sentient being. As I started to improve my life a few years ago, going to the gym, studying, making progress in my social life I found a simple mindset, a short motto or a mantra that helped me overcome that comfortably helpless excuse. It was “It’s fucking simple, just start.” These are one of the most powerful words I have spoken to myself ever, they motivated me to go further in life than almost anything else.
Being What You Say You are | A Stoic’s Guide to Integrity
Doing the things you say sounds simple enough, if you were to ask most men, they would tell you that they indeed do the things they say they’ll do. However this is not a simple lie, it’s not meant to lie to you, they are lying to themselves through lack of integrity and self-determination. Doing … Continue reading Being What You Say You are | A Stoic’s Guide to Integrity
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